Monday, April 11, 2011

Death of the Metrosexual

Death of the Metrosexual

What happened to the Metrosexual?

I spy a man with a respectable black wool coat, black pants and gray oxfords. Harmless enough, however, his pants are stylishly rolled up to his ankles, his collar flipped; so what's the deal? Another man sitting near me, wearing close fitting navy blue pants and brown oxfords: the new shoe uniform? Maybe. Is this a transcendent style for the hipster geek, as well as the uber stylish urban man and woman? I just don't know.

Before the skinny jeans, and the Uggs, there was a time when you could tell the difference between a heterosexual man and a gay man. You knew that because this man was clean cut, clean shaven and well dressed it didn't mean that he was homosexual. Neatness didn't/doesn't make you gay, but now I sit on the A train (certainly not a group of people known for their style) and I just can't tell. Don't get me wrong I am not looking, nor am I judging - but out of pure curiosity where do you stand?

Today we also see the urban youth wearing skinny jeans hanging down below their asses. What does that mean? What are we, the women, supposed to think? Where do we stand with you? More importantly, where do you stand? If we date, will you let me borrow your pants? Will you try to borrow mine? I don't know how I feel about that!

Single-hood is tough enough as it is to have to constantly wonder if the guy you like is gay or not. Where is the happy middle, the happy medium? With all this being said I eulogize the Metrosexual.

Death of the Metrosexual: Eulogy

You were once hard to understand years ago. We took for granted; your quest for all things nice and stylish. We mistook you for a sissy, your love of salmon colored shirts as a cry of homosexuality when in reality it just looks good on you especially with a tan. And even though I am no longer on the market, no longer looking I want to say we miss you, we miss the real you the you that was more than an Express shirt, the you that went an extra mile to impress the women while still retaining your masculinity. We miss you and hope you are reincarnated sometime soon.

PS: If you are indeed reincarnated please come back with man-brows. When I see you with stick thin eyebrows, over plucked, over threaded and waxed you look nuts. Wear your eyebrows neat but not overly done. You're a man and have no need for a defined arch. So leave the top alone and clean up the bottom and you're good.

Okay, I am done but I am serious about the brow thing.

Sincerely,
~Cher
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Thursday, March 24, 2011

In disregard of the staff: organizational change, employee benefits and appraisals.

In disregard of the staff: organizational change, employee benefits and appraisals.


All companies, even the small ones, when deciding to make a new hire, define the job. They put a little bit of time into it, they figure what the requirements will be, the KSAs (knowledge, skills and abilities) and take into consideration the financial benefits, the non financial benefits, etc. They put thought into the process because if not, you get what you pay for. An organization may get lucky and hit the HR lottery with a great hire or you end up with well paid, sub par employees who don't care; who are a direct reflection of the company itself. Not good.

In a small disorganization where there are no secrets (yeah, not one) the process becomes even more important. You cannot disregard the feelings of the current employees, their tasks, their years on the job, experience, education and not to mention their current salary if for the sake of the new hire. The new hire is entering enemy territory, a hostile environment, who may or may not last regardless of the salary - and you will still be stuck with the disgruntled bunch you originally started with. Not good, and could have been avoided with a bit of communication.

It is not to say that a new hire does not deserve as many benefits as possible; and not to say that employees are created equal, but when the organization has no employee appraisal methods in place and raises are granted after the grunts and groans of the staff, they are doled out equally regardless of merit, accomplishments, or achievements it cheapens the entire process. Further, it instills in the employee that they are deserving of more money regardless of their errors, attitudes, and mishaps. It is a win-lose, lose-win situation, because at the end of the day, the company lost, the employee won, and no one learned a thing.

With some sort of employee appraisal method the company can better gauge the employee's work and their contributions to the firm (will be on the fast track from being a disorganization to a real organization) and they also position themselves to make better decisions about salary, comp time off, and other benefits that would also improve the quality life of the worker. Happy worker, better treated customers and clients, more productivity, more money made - just win, win, win. All of this winning with a tiny bit of communication and a bit more organization. However, going this route means that everyone is accountable for their actions and the company will have to place someone in charge of the employees/ This person will be an intermediary between management and the workers who can listen to both sides and mediate disputes and grievances. If there were an appraisal method and a clearly defined job description with defined tasks and duties maybe both employee and management wouldn't be as disgruntled and mediators wouldn't be needed with such frequency. It makes sense, doesn't it?

But, who is the person in charge of all this organization? A firm has many options; one being hiring a new employee with their job defined as HR administrator, hiring a consulting HR firm or redefining current roles (i.e. that of your current office manager perhaps?). Regardless of the path taken, a mature firm should have roles defined and catalogued (much like the merchandise but with no need for inventory) so when there are changes, turnover, etc filling the position does not become this arduous task - and no one looks like chickens with heads cut off running around in all directions except the one they should be (I laugh at the mental picture - memories of summer on the farm in DR).

In the end, you cannot disregard the loyal employees you do have good or bad. If changes need to be made - and no one is saying that change is easy - communicate and ensure them that while it will be a hard transition, that the changes are for the better; that the changes will improve their work lives and that of their personal lives, and so many other facets of their life. Employees want to be better (at least that what the modern studies show), they want to work and better the organization, but you have to give them the chance and you have to empower them. Give them the opportunity to "wow" you and you will see that they are more open to change and progress than they were given credit for.

...But like defining the job, the change must be thoroughly thought out and realized before it can be put into action if not you remain with a massive failure and disgruntled employees. Not good.


Good luck!


Sincerely,
~Cher

Wednesday, March 23, 2011

Gone But Not Forgotten

Gone But Not Forgotten

Hello friends, the few but dedicated to my words.

I have been absent a while, not by choice but due to life (i.e. homework, relationship, parties, Aidan and life in general). For those of you that remember the college years: the first 2 are a breeze the last one not so much. I am struggling a bit. My mind is not as agile as it once was many years ago. But then, I ain't no spring chicken!

In the mean time I have kept notes on my thoughts. You know that fodder for this blogger remains to be the injustices of the workplace and the little things here and there that I notice and deem worth mentioning. Some are truly little, some are little when compared to the universe!

As for the failed project of the book of awakening: I am still reading it but not everyday. Life is just too hectic at this point. I hope that when school is complete (in November) I will be able to dedicate more time to my first professional love: writing. Well, we shall see. For now, I have some time off before my next class begins and I will hold back from purchasing a book on my iPad (although I do miss reading for pleasure).

...On second thought, maybe I can do both. I am so over text books!


Sincerely,
~Cher
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Tuesday, February 22, 2011

Because I am So In Love: To CAC & AMC

Because I am So In Love: To CAC & AMC

Not because it is Valentine's Day but just because, I want to exclaim that I am so in love with my life, my family and everything that comprises it. I have a great support system at home.

...And every night when we pray, we ask God to help mommy find a new job (although his reason is just so I can pick him up after school). Whatever the reason, my entire family is behind me cheering me on. I am so blessed.

For them I express my words of love. Words of the utmost devotion to them for all that I am, all that I do is in pursuit of more happiness, of more love (if that is even possible).

But I continue to strive for more love, more happiness, more of God's divine help and balance. We know that our love, happiness and riches are due to Him and His constant guard over us.

With all my love,

~CBC

Under The Bus

Under The Bus

Everyone knows about the [external] customer. Not too long ago I learned about the internal customer and though I always knew that many parts of my job depends on other parts completed by others I never thought of myself and them as being customers as well. Ideally you want to treat all customers; internal and external, with the utmost respect because for whatever reason you depend on them.

At a small company things get a bit more complicated. It's all about working together. Because It's so small, there is no where to run, no one to run to and when there is trouble brewing - it is really bubbling over, spilling and making a huge mess all over the place. At the small company there must be solidarity. Together we stand, the regular worker bees against the rest of them. When the silent pact is broken, a big part of the working dynamic dies. Do I see you fooling around online? Yes, I do but who am I to judge and/or govern you? Should we be more productive? Of course but there is only so much you can do when there is nothing to do.

We come to the point: do not throw other employees under the bus when you are not the model of perfection by any means. Some of us have different vices, some farm on Farmville, some socialize on social networks, some do homework and some play computer solitaire. What is the difference?

While we all hold different positions we all still need each other. I need the front office and sometimes they need me too in the back. In the end we all need each other, for different reasons, but need is need.

Lets all try to get along. Lets try to work together and towards the same goal. We are in it together unless you are related to the family or marry into it - but who wants that?

"Stop, think about."

Sincerely,
~Cher
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Tuesday, February 1, 2011

The Stupidity of Love: Real Life Love Stories

The Stupidity of Love: Real Life Love Stories

Disclaimer: I am a woman. I am loved. I love. I don't however, allow love to make decisions for me (anymore). Yes, I have made foolish choices in my life, but who hasn't? I learned from a book I read long ago (the Road Less Traveled, perhaps?) that loving a person is a choice, it is a decision that is made and that there is no such thing as falling "in love." I believed it then and I still do now. Being "in love" blinds you and practically leaves you to die in the street. Really loving someone is knowing that sometimes you will have to sacrifice even your love for the person for the best path. Of course I am idealistic, always have been and hopefully always will be.

What Love Does

Loves encourages smart people to make foolish decisions. Love disguises bad decisions with a bow and make them look pretty and nice instead of what they really are... Toxic decisions that literally haunt you for the rest of your life or for the better part of 7 years a reminder on your credit score; because Love certainly doesn't pay the bills but it can certainly put you in some major debt financially, emotionally, physically and all other [ally]s. Love doesn't think about your name, love doesn't think about your identity.

These are a few stories of people who have gone blind with love. When it was good, it really prospered, it was great. But when it went bad, it was a black hole that sucked you into a vortex of resentment and near hate for all those interested.

Love Story 1
Real love was something that is hard to experience for a scientific mind, I think. But when this scientific and very compartmenalized mind fell in love, she put her entire self into this love, the way it is supposed to be. Out of love, this very logical and scientific woman put up HER house as collateral to help her love start another business. Many other things transpired in between, including a ring, a promise, a partnership (both in business and in love), and a beautiful baby girl. But love has no management skills, and love can't run a business, love cant save a bad business and love ultimately defaulted on loans on the business. Love was absolutely corrupt and love went bankrupt (emotionally and financially). Love even threatened to sink her deeper into debt to force loss of a home with the daughter in it. Love needed to die right then and there Puerto Rican style (thanks Louie, the ultimate Puerto Rican, for teaching me that phrase, it just fits most every circumstance).

Love Story 2
Love met and chilled out. Love had a ton in common, and love got her pregnant. Love already had a family of his own. Love proclaimed that he loved her, he then proclaimed he wanted nothing to do with the child. Love eventually went back to his other babies' momma and love don't provide financially for the Love baby. Miss in-Love now has to eat a lot of dirt, deal with the hurtful comments made by the family to make sure she can work, provide for her child, have her child cared for, clothed and fed. Maybe Love should have put better ingredients into the pot, maybe the pot should have been covered properly. But whatever the reason the pot remained open, from it a lovely child came to be. But a pot filled with air does not feed a child. A pot filled with nothing does not clothe a child. Love did all this.
Love Story 3
Love saw her from across the room. Love was a damsel in distress. Love saved her and love fell madly, and love rushed in, and came [inside] but love did not last forever. Love did good for a great while, love married, bought a condo, a couple of cars, then a bigger house and another baby but love didn't make a home. Love fought. Love gave up. Love isn't supposed to do that. Love is shacked up with the next chick taking vacations to Puerto Rico thinking life is grand. Love is absolutely lucky he didn't end up with me. Love and his chick need to die Puerto Rican style probably while on vacation there (wow, you see how that fits?).

The Truth
Love is supposed to stick around regardless of the circumstances. Love is supposed to make better decisions. Love is supposed to love you no matter what; for the good and the bad. I know that real love actually does care about you, your credit score and all that you have done for it. Real love wants the best for you at all times even when things fall apart. Real love acknowledges that you are great but however great love alone could not hold it together because love may be a lot of things, but crazy glue it ain't.

Other Things Love is Not Supposed to do
  • Seek emotional support from another (especially of the opposite sex)
  • Cheat while one is pregnant
  • Not care
  • Leave
  • Abandon
  • Divide (this should be a #1, because evil posing as Love divides a family of relatives and friends and that is not what is supposed to do)
  • Make decisions concerning the relationship on their own
  • Not talk to the other
  • Pretend to love
  • Stay for pity (you want to, then BOUNCE)
  • Stay for the children (it will never work out that way and children are not reason enough to stay. You just end up with emotionally retarded kids)
  • Leave AND take all assets and money with you out of spite
  • Run credit to the ground
  • Take off-the-books jobs to not pay child support (really dispicable sh*t)
Don't know what I am missing, but I am pretty sure my few readers can give me more ideas.

Take care of yourself first, take care of your love second because no one can love you if you don't love you.

Much Love,
Cher

Tuesday, January 25, 2011

Equal Employment Opportunity: Is It Really Equal?

Equal Employment Opportunity: Is It Really Equal?

Is equal employment opportunity really equal? My thoughts are that they aren't for real.

As a management student one of the very tasks I have been given is research on job postings. If my goal is to be a manager of sorts, at some point in my career I will have to come up with a job description. With some research, more than a few HRM classes under my belt, my own personal curiosity in the state of the job market (ha, ha) and the fact that I just love to read everything; I have seen some crazy job posts.

First I want to point out a paradox, entry level means that the person applying need not have experience. When the title of the post says "Entry Level..." then within the job description the hiring manager states "1-2 yrs experience necessary" you negate the title. Not equal. How can an entry level position require experience? What was that phrase again? Oh, not equal.

When you post a job opening for a receptionist but require applicants to have Ivy League backgrounds with 3.5+ GPAs and then disclaim that you are an EEO organization you are lying. Not Equal.

Why would anyone require a degree to pick up the phone? However the ability to state something to the effect of "pleasant appearance" is better suited for the job. The receptionist is the voice of the company and they are also the face of the organization so ideally you would want someone who is good looking with a nice voice. The need for a BS to say "hello" is totally crazy. I say it again, not equal.

I understand that in order to discourage absolutely unqualified people from applying certain key words/phrases are added: degree required, 3-5 years experience; but an Ivy League education? Really?

My husband has tried and true sales and management experience. He is not the school type (although he is considering it) but he has real money making methods to run your business as his own. Great stuff, and I know that unless I have a masters in management (as I plan anyway) it is the only way that I can really compete with him since my experience and expertise lies with administrative duties.

However, I have over 10 years experience as an account manager and inventory specialist. I practice best methods, I am constantly improving my own processes and I am absolutely genius! Okay not really genius, genius but my ability to see a problem, give it thought and come up with a solution has value; real value. How can an EEO organization see that? I am still researching, but I am going to try a few changes and see where it gets me and really test this EEO thing.

Sincerely,
~Cher
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